This week we start our conversation touching on the practice of setting new year’s resolutions. We have some feelings about this tradition! We talk about the difference between resolutions – which often fail for a variety of reasons – and goals that are more specific and reachable. We end this episode with an invitation to scrap resolutions entirely and instead focus on self-compassion and the concept of enoughness: the belief that we are enough just as we are.  

Do try this at home:

• Resist the urge to jump head first into the frenzy of making resolutions and instead reflect on what that is about for you. Why do we keep doing that? What are we trying to achieve? Are there other ways to get what you need by doing less? 
• Find a mantra or create one that connects you with your focus for the week or day or hour. Bite size pieces are the most effective. 
• If you are trying to set goals, focus on progress over perfection. You may also want to consider inviting yourself to do less. You do not need to change anything about yourself in order to deserve peace and ease and freedom. You are more than enough just as you are. 

 Resources:

• I thought it was just me (but it isn’t): Making the journey from “What will people think” to” I am enough” by Brene Brown
• The Trance of Scarcity by Victoria Castle
• You are a Bad Ass by Jen Sincero
• Self-Compassion: https://self-compassion.org/